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Safety Tips On Divorcing An Abusive Spouse

Everett Cook

Divorce is never easy, but leaving an abusive spouse can be dangerous and more complicated than usual. Being abused can put you in a vulnerable and emotionally fragile position, but if you are to be successful in starting a better life for you and your children, you must set aside your fears and act logically. Good preparation without your abusive spouse's knowledge is the key to ensuring your safety, so read on for important safety tips for divorcing an abusive spouse.

Plan Ahead

  • Many people suffer from low self-esteem as a result of abuse, and may be too embarrassed to tell others. You will need a support network in place to escape the abuse, so reach out to trusted friends and family members for help in getting through this process.
  • Access to money could become a problem once your abusive spouse suspects you of leaving, so stash away as much as possible without arousing suspicions.
  • Seek out a safe place away from the home to store valuable and sentimental items, such a a rented storage room. An an angry spouse could hold your precious family photos hostage in retaliation for your actions.

Take Your Children

When the time comes to make your departure, do not neglect to take your children and pets with you. Even if you are absolutely sure that your spouse would never harm them, don't give him or her a bargaining chip during any contested divorce proceedings. Additionally, you should keep in mind that the family court judge would not approve of leaving your children with an abusive spouse, which could come into play if you encounter a contested child custody situation.

Before You Get a Restraining Order

You can, and should, get an restraining order for protection from your abusive spouse if you need it, but be prepared to deal with the resulting anger and rage. It's not uncommon for abusive spouses to view spouses and children as their property, so ensuring that you have a safe place to stay after the order is served is vital. A women's or men's shelter will provide you with complete anonymity, at least temporarily.

At-fault Divorce

While many states now follow the no-fault rule in divorce, in states that allow the issues that led to the divorce to be introduced and used as factors in decisions on the division of property and debt, child visitation and custody and spousal support you can expect some support, if you can prove the abuse allegations. 

The help and support of a divorce attorney during this time is vital. Contact a family law professional to help you stay safe, procure restraining orders and get through your divorce in a safe and financially secure manner.


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After being involved in a serious auto accident with a drunk driver, I struggled heavily with getting the driver's insurance company to open a claim. When the insurance company started pushing back, I knew I needed to do something. I spent a lot of time digging through the laws surrounding auto accident claims so that I knew what my legal rights were. I even talked with an auto accident attorney. I created this site to teach others about what I learned, including my court experience. I hope it helps you to determine how you should proceed with your auto accident case.